Welcome to a Judgment-Free, Safe & Sacred Sex Positive Space!

About Me:

I am deeply passionate about healing the world through pleasure, about truth in relating, about choice and voice, about empowerment and about joyful living. I focus on sex positivity and the importance of sensuality and masturbation in our lives.

Core belief: our body wants to turn towards health and wellness in the same way a plant wants to turn towards the sun. I help people find their sun. Because knowing yourself and your own body makes you happy and whole. It also makes for better community and a healthier planet. 

I am: like you, I am so many different beautiful and contrary and complicated facets. Including… a certified Betty Dodson Bodysex Facilitator and Orgasm Coach, Somatic Sex Educator & Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Mother of two, Entrepreneur, Life-Long Learner, Wife, Advocate, and Friend. I am also a Betty Martin School of Consent teacher.

I heart: skinny dipping, laughter, time in the woods, being on the mountain, strong women, a sense of humor, dogs, adventure, intimacy, integrity and beauty of all kinds.

My Journey: 

I've been happily married for 28 years, but had lost my sexual self somewhere between the piles of laundry and dishes. My libido was sacrificed to the greater good of carpools to and from soccer and dance. My sexual self was repressed by my professional self, as I dedicated myself to work and paying the bills. Walking the dog, and going to and giving dinner parties for friends meant little time for myself. Besides, I didn't care much about having more than routine sex. At some point, I had locked desire away. It was sacrificed to emotional intimacy on the alter of marriage and children and family.  

I think most marriages suffer from this. It's part boredom and part frantic busy-ness as we run around the hamster wheel as quickly as we can. The pretty picture of 2.5 kids with loving husband and beautiful house just wasn't making me happy. I was a loving mom and wife but I wasn't very satisfied. Something was wrong and I didn't know what. I was tired; maybe even bored. I didn't feel sexy. I was fat. Meanwhile, my kids were growing up and I was growing older and I just kept thinking there's got to be more than this. 

I had a million excuses, but the bottom line was that I just wasn't all that interested in sex. It was kind of like going to the gym, I knew it would be good for me but it was hard to motivate. And most of the time my running shoes just sat collecting dust, in the same way I denied myself anything more than snack-sized bites of sexual pleasure. 

Fast forward 5 years and I feel worthy. I found the secret key: Newsflash darlings - Pleasure is a Priority! If you've got food on the table and a roof over your head and can afford the basics, you've got enough. Start focusing on your own pleasure. I found myself, and guess what? I'm sexy and fun and happy and so much more. I'm still a conscious parent and committed partner. Only now I'm truly ALIVE. I opened a locked box inside myself, and out popped passion and pleasure and pure joy.  It's life changing and amazing. I'm now a certified Betty Dodson Bodysex Instructor and Orgasm Coach, as well as a Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Bodyworker (see below if you’re wondering what that is!) and certified School of Consent Instructor. I focus on sex positivity and the importance of masturbation in our lives. Knowing yourself and your own body makes you a better partner and lover. 

self-love

"I found my way back to myself. And to a profound sense of aliveness, joy and connection."

VERB: 

In order to be able to truly love another person, a person needs first to love oneself, in the way of respecting oneself, and knowing oneself (e.g. being realistic and honest about one's strengths and weaknesses) - Erich Fromm

NOUN:

The belief you hold that you are a valuable and worthy person.

Still not sure what self-love looks like? I heart this list, which includes things like:

• Giving our body the nurturing it needs

• Building a life we love

• Accepting ourselves - the good, the bad, & the ugly

• Spending some quality, connected time with ourselves

• Loving & accepting ourselves, even when we fail miserably