One-on-One Cuddling
One-on-One Cuddling: In-Person in Portland, OR and Stevenson, WA, and online via zoom around the world!
I LOVE one-on-one work and offer private cuddling because Vitamin T (T is for Touch!) is essential to being a healthy and whole human. Most of us are touch deprived, barely receiving enough touch to survive, let alone thrive.
Professional cuddling is an embodied form of therapy that provides physical, social, and emotional benefits. Platonic touch and cuddling improves overall health and releases the “feel-good” hormone, oxytocin. It also inhibits the stress hormone, cortisol, thereby relieving stress and anxiety.
These private sessions are booked in 60, 90 and 120 minute increments, and can happen in-person or via video (Zoom, FaceTime, WhatsApp). Longer sessions can be arranged. I host clients in my studios or online, and alternate public locations can be arranged.
If you feel lonely, isolated, depressed, grief and/or touch-deprived, cuddling might be perfect for you! I do this work because I know what it feels like to be lacking in Vitamin T. And because healthy, safe touch helps us heal and whole.
Please note that this is different from my somatic sex coaching. Boundaried cuddling is not sex. It is hugging. Our nervous systems will synchronize - breath and heart rate both align and a relaxed, happy, calm state of being is typically experienced.
A Safe Way to Give & Receive Touch
What is it exactly? Cuddling Is…
Cuddling is boundaried. You may get aroused, you may not. We do not follow our desire in cuddling, we do acknowledge it when it’s there. Arousal isn’t the point. Nourishing touch is.
It is consensual two-way touch between two or more adults. There is often talking (and listening!), how much depends on you.
It is non-sexual.
It is for you.
It is clothed.
It is snuggling.
It is holding.
It is nourishing and empowering and comforting and consoling and encouraging.
It is practice asking for and getting the touch you want.
It is practice with relational skills.
It is safe.
It is loving kindness.
It is legal.
It is practice feeling into your body and living in a more authentic, embodied way.
It is healing.
It is good for you.
What is it not? Cuddling is NOT…
Cuddling is not sexual.
It is not one-way.
It is not massage.
It is not naked.
It is not genital touching - basically there is no touching anywhere you or I would wear a bathing suit.
It is not kissing.
It is not gender specific.
Exactly what we do depends in large part on your wishes, but always I work to empower your voice & choice and to create a safer/braver space. Any cuddling we do together is private and tailored for your specific needs & intentions. Extended cuddling sessions (90 to 120 mins or more) may include dancing, eating, movie watching, listening to music, etc. We will work together to structure the session to meet your needs. And you can change your mind as many times as your mind changes.
“Each session from the very first was everything I had hoped for! Thank you for helping me feel safe and for doing this important work.”
“Cuddling is more than an exercise in physical self-love. It is an expansion of self-knowledge and acceptance –the act of willingly embracing the gift touch helped me feel more alive.
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What Happens…
Scheduling a Session
Signup for a free 15 min consult to discuss your reasons for wanting a cuddle session and ask me any questions. If we both agree this would benefit you and you would like to move forward, you’ll fill out my mandatory intake form and schedule a session with me.
What to Wear
Whatever is comfortable for you! At a minimum, bathing suit areas must be covered. Cleanliness and good hygiene is a must! Please arrive showered and clean.
During the Session
To start, we will discuss and establish ground rules & boundaries, empowering you to speak up and ask for what you want. There is no such thing as safety - but together we will work to set up a safer braver space in which you get exactly what you want - nothing more and nothing less, staying within our agreement.
We will likely do some grounding - breathwork, guided meditation, stretching or dance. This helps us land together, relax and connect with our bodies.
When you are ready, we will set an intention - this is for you. Then we will transition to cuddling. There is no right or wrong way to do this, or to touch. We will move and find what works best for both of us, slowing down in order to stay present and embodied. We might sit and talk, eye gaze, lay down and spoon. We could also exchange massage, listen to music, watch a movie, dance, read a book, play a board game, cook and eat a delicious meal.
I typically host and do not make house calls, though meeting in public and going to a movie, show, restaurant or other public place can be arranged.
After The Session
We will discuss any aha’s, what worked well or what didn’t, and make an after care plan.
I am a certified School of Consent Facilitator, Somatic Sex Educator, Masturbation & Orgasm Coach, Betty Dodson Bodysex Facilitator and AASECT member. Want to know more? Click here. AND here.
Make An Appointment Today
It's easy to schedule a session or free 15 min consultation, or simply ask a question in a judgment free, sex-positive space.
Say Hello, Ask a Question
Wondering if I can help or if we’d work well together? It’s easy to say hello, ask a question or two, and get to know me before scheduling a session.
Schedule a Session
Let’s cuddle! Choose from 60, 90 or 120 minute sessions, in person or online.
How to get started?
1. Fill out this mandatory intake form: https://bit.ly/3zU9Tpd
2. Then, schedule a session using the Reach Out button below.
Or, shoot me an email with questions and we’ll go from there: Amy@JoyfulSelfLove.com.
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Pricing:
At this point, I do not take insurance. I charge $130/hour, $185/90 minutes. I also offer a discount for a package of 4 sessions. Sessions can be purchased here. Most clients see me 6-10 times, although that obviously varies. But in general, my goal is to provide you with the tools you need to be independent and successful.
“Had the best experience with Amy! I came in with expectations and the time with her was way more than I could have ever asked. Looking forward to seeing her again very soon and to continuing my journey.”
“I am so much more inhabited. In my body, not spinning so much in my mind.”
“Thanks for the help you gave us! It’s great to be able to orgasm whenever I want!”
“I learned sexuality is not as perfect for others as I thought. This was so freeing! The feedback and practice I got with Amy has changed my life.”
“I feel very good about our session, it hit on many areas that I wanted to work on. I liked the structure as well as the fluidity of multiple options. You made me feel comfortable and safe and trusted. This was very important for me in order to allow myself to relax into my body and session.”
“Thank you so much for speaking with me today! I can tell you love what you do which is awesome to hear!”
What's the Difference between a Sex Therapist & Sex Coach?
I often work in conjunction with Sex Therapists. What's the difference between a Somatic Sex Educator and Coach (that's me!) and a therapist? Therapists employ talk therapy and are typically members of a national psychotherapy organization. As a certified Somatic Sex Educator and Coach, the story isn't as important to me as what's being held in the body. I work in the present - what are you feeling right now?! and employ tools like breath work, mindfulness, sound, movement & touch to help clients safely feel in their bodies.
Common issues I work with people of all genders, race, size, and orientation on include:
Accessing orgasm, figuring out what you really want
Claiming or reclaiming your sexual self - exploring your orgasm, fantasy, sensuality
Erectile issues - premature ejaculation and problems getting or staying hard
Feeling frozen or disassociated from your body
Body image issues - how to heal from this trauma and embrace yourself
Exploring different relationship styles, this could mean opening or closing a relationship. Avoiding poly drama. Negotiating and getting what you really want.
Questions around gender identity and sexuality, including transgender
Healing from trauma - you've processed and talked and understand what happened, but now you need to release long-held trauma from your body.
Low arousal or mismatched arousal in relationship
Going deeper in your relationship, sexually and emotionally
Masturbation techniques
Erotic skill acquisition - how to drive your partner crazy
Anal health and enjoyment
Pelvic floor health
I look forward to the possibility of helping you reach your full erotic potential in a private, safe and non-judgmental space!
* Service disclaimer: Massage therapy is a professional occupation regulated by state licensure (OMB). I do not provide massage, nor any preventative, restorative, or therapeutic treatments of any kind. If you have an injury or medical concern, please consult your doctor or seek out a licensed massage therapist.